I promise you an everlasting holiday if you subscribe to my philosophy. I love the sea, I love holidays and I love life, so it is good for me to merge these 3 and create my own private philosophy. It is not complicated, so please do not expect any Jung-like quality work, just a few simple ideas that assist me with coping on an everyday level.
1) The sea just is what it is. It does not get personal, has no agenda, no secret vendetta against the people who are brave enough to get their feet wet. That is the same with life, it just is. So nothing that happens to me (either good or bad) has hidden meaning, secret messages from anywhere or anyone.
2) The sea makes waves, and so does life. It is just what it does. Some waves are big (like losing your job, getting divorced, etc.) Other waves are small (examples are people cutting you off in traffic, someone being rude at the office, etc). Sometimes there are tsunamis, and I leave it to your imagination as to what can be classified as a tsunami in your own personal life
3) There is no way I can stop the waves, neither can any-one else stop the waves for me. I cannot make them smaller, I cannot wish them away, I cannot always prepare for them. All I can do is accept that they are always going to be there. Even if I decide to go to another beach, there will still be waves. Maybe they are smaller, even tiny, but maybe there are more of them, or the water is dirty, or there are bluebottles in the water - who knows? Waves are non-negotiable.
4) So what can I do? I have quite a few options open to me.
a)I can just sit on the beach and watch them. I can watch other swimmers getting knocked around, enjoying the water, being eaten by sharks, whatever. I can choose to be an observer - but at some time I will need to get wet as it is bloody hot sitting in the sun like this, and it can also get extremely boring watching other people the whole time.
b)I can get just my feet wet, standing in the foam-breaking part of the waves - this can be a good coping strategy, but every time a BIG wave comes along, I scream like a girl, pick up my skirts and run back on the beach - scared to face the force of a bigger wave.
c)I can go into the sea up to my midriff, keeping my head and my arms high in the air to avoid getting any saltwater in my eyes. Every now and then I can give a little jump when a bigger swell pushes against me.I can pretend this is swimming.
d)I can be brave and go all the way in - that scary but exciting place where you are in so deep your feet does not touch the soft sea sand at the bottom. This option also gives you the opportunity to either take a deep breath and dive under the breaking wave, or alternatively surf it right out to the beach.
So although I cannot control or choose the waves that come my way, I definitely CAN choose how I am going to handle each wave. Some days I will just sit and watch, other days I decide to go in for a real good swim.
And I look forward to the BIG WAVES - you know the ones that push you down to the bottom and you are not sure where is up or down? The ones where you come up for air afterwards and your one boob has escaped your costume - and half the sea sand has made its way into the bottom of your costume. Because this type of wave makes you feel alive, it shares its energy with you, it make you laugh out loud as you float in the temporary calm it left behind. You can hear it crashing on the beach, knocking over all the wimpy feet-wetters, washing away their towels and dissolving the beach-sitter's sandcastles. And you get ready for the next one!!!
I just LOVE the sea - come join me for a swim!!!! The weather is gorgeous.
Lovies
Lizette (on holiday!!!!!)
No comments:
Post a Comment